Player 1: Jacqueline: Grandmother to me and mother to my mom and my aunt. She is as stubborn as an ox and she has always been the matriarch of the family. I lived at least 1/3 of my time with her while my mom flew for National, PanAm, and Delta airlines. She lost my grandfather 19 days after their 50th wedding anniversary. She never wants to admit she is wrong or that she needs help. She now has 20-15% heart function, dimensia (bad), 90% blockage in one of her upper left chambers, and arthritis. My grandmother has enabled by aunt her whole life and she continues to do so. She is oblivious to reality sometimes. She believes most of my aunt's cons and she even wen tto the jail almost every week when my aunt was "in camp" aka prison.
Player 2: MOM (Kathi): My mom was a flight attendant for 35 years. She is and has always been VERY politically involved. She is a die hard liberal and she is not one to keep that fact to herself. She has offended many a person by essentially calling them stupid idiots because they have beliefs that differ from hers and (in her eyes) cannot debate their point of view. My mother divorced by father (who will be featured in a future blog) when I was 8 months old. She has been a single mother most of her life. She is very intelligent and educated. She has SHITTY taste in men though. She has been married 4 times and they've all been BLAH! Tom (my step father) has basicially robbed my mother blind. She gave him all her money and credit to try and "save" his business (which ultimately failed anyways). She has fibromyalgia and arthritis and asthma. She is in constant pain from a neck injury she sustained while working for Delta. She using alcohol to medicate herself (physically and emotionally). Her therapist says she's a binge drinker, but I think she's more of an alcoholic. I've never seen her have 1 or 2 glasses of wine. She has 4+ glasses every time she drinks. She resents my grandmother for never treating her like she existed and for no acknowledging her for all the things she's done right in life. She resents my aunt for being the leech of the family and for getting everything she wants. She wants to be able to go in a fix my aunt and my grandmother, but her communication skills suck! Besides the booze, one of her coping skills is to get MAD. She just starts yelling and of course everyone puts up an immediate wall when she offends them.
Picture of me (left) and mom (right)..yes we are virtual twins
Player 3: The Aunt: Karla: Here we have one of the most complicated players in this game. My aunt has been a leech and a druggie her whole life. She is addicted to pain pills. She has been married a couple of times, but basically leeched off of them until they were of no use to her. She is bi-polar, adhd, ocd, and borderline mulitiple personality. She will not seek professional psychiatric care, but frankly she likes being crazy. She is on disability, but lives with my grandmother. She's spent HUNDREDS of dollars on farmville cash (a facebook game for those who aren't familiar), She spend 4 years in jail for reckless driving, driving under the influence, and possession. She feels like she did her time and now everyone should feel bad for her. She claims to be sober, but I found a list of medications in the bills I was given, which included fiorinol, loratab, and soma. She doesn't admit to anything. She cons doctors and doctor shops. She is currently the "care taker" of my grandmother.
This is a picture of her with my children (Abigail and Mikey).
Soooo...since I'm the only one in my family that has a lick of sense and communication skills, I have been the one to have to set up hospice for my grandmommy and pay the bills. We had to go to the bank to get me put on grandmommy's checking account and of course the whole time, Abigail is wailing and grandmommy looks like she is about to pass out. Then Mary (the bank lady) has an overflow of attitude. I know she was probably thinking 'Here comes 2 people that I've never seen or heard of before and Mrs Jacque, who looks like hammered hell and they are trying to get Jacque's money." That is SO not the case! I just don't want the phone or electricity to be turned off and I can't trust either her or my aunt to deal with the bills. Also, I know my aunt is still playing games with the meds. While reading through the hospice notes, I read: Patients daughter called to say that patient is in pain. Upon arrival, there were no noticeable bruising or redness. Patient is no complaining of pain. Loratab (5mg) are ordered. Patients granddaughter will pick up. WHAT!?!?! Patient's granddaughter doesn't agree with the damn order! Then I find out that when the nurse said she was going to order Loratab, my Aunt went to the bedroom and came out with a pill bottle and says "I have Loratabs." Of course the nurse laid into her and said that my grandmother could NOT take medication that strong. I would not be surprised if my aunt accidentally overdoses my grandmother. I feel bad because there is not much I can do to prevent that. I plan on making a call to hospice tomorrow to at least warn them about what is going on.
So between the dealing with my crazy family non-stop for 3 weeks and having MORE responsibilities put on me, my body has decided to go into shut down mode. I was so excited that I HAD been feeling better. I was even able to do a whole Zumba class, but now my body says "SLOW DOWN BITCH!" LOL. I have a cough (that sounds like croup). I have breathing issues and my throat is WAY hurtie. All I want to do is lay in bed and drink coffee and/or tea. I'm taking mucinex and doing breathing treatments. I'm not changing any of my other meds. Of course I can't take too many immune boosters, because then my wegeners will go batty. I'm hoping to feel better by monday. I can't afford to be sick right now. I have Mikey's bday coming up and my friend's daughter's bday. I have a preschool valentines party to plan and of course I have to keep the crazies happy. :-P
More to come later!
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